Leed, good for you. If theydon't play fair and rub your face in it, find some way to make the time work for you. It's not about giving them a chance to play "read my mind so I can make you feel like a fool. It's a time for peace. time to make some for yourself if they won't be a part. You've done your best. You don't have to wait for anyone else any more.

(((((((((((((Sunsetsunrise)))))))))))) I am a stranger, and I know that is no substitute for a family, but I wish I could lift you out of being alone and bring you into our house and let you listen to the music and put up with the chaos and the preparations here for as long as you can stand it, up through Christmas and beyond. This is a hard time of year, even without the holidays, cold and dark, in the old times, lean as well. No one should be alone to face it. My heart goes out to you. HUGGGGSSS