I disagree with staying in a marriage for the sake of the child(ren). I got married in '02 and my son was born in '04. Looking back, I should have left when he didn't know any better. He just turned 6 and he is tortured by the fact that he misses daddy (even though daddy wasn't around much anyways). I blame myself for the pain that has caused him because I thought I was doing the right thing by trying to work things out. If I had just left then, he wouldn't have known the difference. IDK thats just my two cents.