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Old Dec 08, 2010, 03:02 PM
melinda84 melinda84 is offline
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Thanks for your advice, guys. I can see what you're saying about the possibility of him clamming up because he's afraid I might get upset. I have been getting upset at him often it seems lately. As much as I try, I often can't control it though. I have really gotten upset over some stupid things such as the fact that I found out he likes a lot of different movies than I do. Deep down inside, it feels like I don't have as much to share with him so that's partly why I get upset, but also because I just don't like having such extreme differences sometimes.

I wish I knew how to cope with my anger. I have really been having a lot of trouble with that. It seems like I also could be taking my depression out on him, but i'm not sure that is the only issue. I have been very depressed because of the cold winter weather (which I hate cuz it keeps me indoors all the time) and I've been depressed cuz of Christmas (I really don't like it. Too many negative memories it brings).

I don't want my bf to stop communicating with me cuz of this though. We need to communicate to keep the relationship strong.

I've thought about counseling, but the more I think about it the more I think that it'd be a waste of money because I have been to a therapist before and she really didn't seem to help. All they do is listen to you talk about your problems instead of give a resolution to your problems most of the time and it might not be the right resolution I need.