Hmmm... I see a PM in my future (OT)

I have similar fanticies and enjoy myself more if I am the submissive... Although that is a very long and sorted story...

I am OK with being that way.

I have found that with things like this the harder we push them away the stronger they get. I am not saying to give into them if you are not comfortable but try to let them pass gently without obessing on them.

Finding a therapist who is comfortable talking about these kinds of thing can be difficult, experienced will be more difficult. You may be surprized how many can talk to you about it without judging you. Even if it is annonomosly to give you a referral.

My T is very (as in a 1/2 step away from being a nun) catholic but I know that if I needed her to talk with me about my sexual desires she would, could and would do it without judging. I know one of the other T's in her office building, she too is very religous and would be very comfortable talking to me about it (other than the fact that I seriously have the hots for her and she knows it) although they may make a referal to someone with more experience. I have never worked with a "secular/non-religous" T nor can I think of any off the top of me head and I know several... I can only think of one who would have a hard time with that discussion and she was a useless student in practicum... see other posts for notes on her uselessness.

I don't know if you are in the US or not... If you are I believe the American Psychological Association has a "therapist finder". I don't know the search parameters any more but you should be able to search for a "sex therapist" who would most likely be the most comfortable talking about it or best able to give you a referral.

again... just thoughts.