We got on this topic because you blamed yourself for where you are at and I questioned you and then you blamed yourself for all the problems in your entire household!

So it seems that your parents are overwhelmed and they rely on you to be the 3rd adult? Yeah, it is okay for children to help, especially when the adults are being responsible (but not when they aren't being responsible too!). You helping is one thing but you thinking that you are the cause for all the problems in your household is quite another thing! It is like you have made everyone else not responsible for problems and you have taken all the blame for every problem in the entire household. Really, think about it. This isn't rational. Why would you be the only person in the entire household responsible for all of the problems!

You know what, I can explain some child development to you that might help you to understand how this thinking can evolve. Young children believe that they are the center of the universe. They cannot conceive that most things have nothing to do with them because their minds are not developed enough to perceive the big picture. All that they can gather in their minds is themselves and things around them and they believe that they affect everything around them. As a person matures mentally and emotionally they come to realize that they are only one person and they just aren't that big or powerful to affect everything around them. The truth is, most things have nothing to do with one individual. Sure, things that pertain to them they affect, but most things, a single individual has no hand in it. So your thinking now is like you are the sun and everyone else revolves around you. In reality, your parents are the suns in your household, not a child!

So, I assume you are a young teenager? Why didn't you pass by this developmental stage and realize that most things have nothing to do with you? Maybe because your parents rely on you too much? Do they talk to you like an adult and tell you about all of their problems and stressors? I hope that I have made sense with all of this.

It is like you are the pack donkey carrying everything for the whole family. Other people can be responsible too you know. This really is affecting your development. No child needs to carry this much responsibility for the whole family. (And I want to seperate household responsibilites from you thinking that you are responsible for all problems. Children do need to help so please don't take what I have said to mean that you shouldn't help around the house. I'm mostly talking about you feeling that you are responsible for all of the problems.)