Rebelldoll13, I found that going to the library and finding books helped me deal with my first divorce. I may end up having to go through a 2nd one as I am at the end of my rope with my husband. We have issues that he refuses to deal with and he won't try counseling. He say's he did this with his ex wife and the therapist sided with her so he won't do it again. That being said your feelings of anger, pain, sadness and loneliness are normal. Divorce is tough and can make you feel like a failure even when you are not.... If he is not willing to work things out then perhaps getting some self help books and going to see a therapist for awhile isn't a bad idea. Divorce is a life event similar to death of a loved one and it is very difficult to deal with. But you will feel better, you will be ok and your life will improve for the better even if you don't feel that way!! Also a good lawyer helps but check the web for what you need to look for. Some lawyers charge more and feed on your emotions to make money. A lawyer if you can afford one will protect your interests and keep him from walking all over you while you stand there in shock....Hang in there girl!