First let me start out by saying that my Dad raped me when I was younger. That's it no details. I finally told someone my senior year of highschool. For the last 7 years, I have had zero contact with him mainly of my own volition, but also partly because of the courts. He is not allowed to have any contact with me at all. I've always had this need/want to talk to him, and ask him why he did it. Part of me also wants retribution, and wants to have a face-to-face confrontation with him in which I can say everything that he has made me feel, and hopefully see in him the pain/confusion that he has caused in me. Anyways, the opportunity has presented itself that he can possibly have contact with me i.e. letters, phone, maybe a birthday or Christmas card etc. I am not entirely sure as to if I want to do this or not. I think I would be happy with just telling him everything I feel and then possibly never talking to him again. Tell me what you think. And if anyone has talked to their abuser especially if you are in a similar scenario I would really appreciate it.