This is a lot of stress. Are you working on your feelings in therapy and in day treatment? Have you worked on your grief in therapy? How do you know that you daughter's sadness is from these deaths? I would think a divorce would also upset her and if you are having difficulties this would also affect her.

Yes, we teach our children what we know even if it is indirectly. I'm sure that you don't cut in front of her but I'll bet that you cut because of difficulty with emotions and if you haven't mastered dealing with emotions your daughter has learned the same thing from you.

Please continue to keep us posted.