I can emphathize with you here. It is now over 3 years since your post and I hope to G-d that you have gotten over your obsession. I was with a man for 5 years. I broke up with him b/c he wouldn't committ and I was becoming someone I didn't like. However, it is now 5 years later and I still think of him every day. I am now married and have a son and still every single day I pray to forget him. I have been in and out of therapy for years, still to no avail. I just wish I never met him b/c it hurts so much. I hate being me and I hate feeling weak and why am I like this. I really hope that by now you have, unlike me, gotten control of your feelings and I am sure you are now STRONG and happy!!!