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Dec 10, 2010, 05:05 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi --- I think first of all, you need to decide if you really WANT to deal with them this Christmas/holiday season. There is no law saying that you HAVE to.  If you would rather not, then just spend this holiday season with your husband and kids -- and let it go at that. It would be much calmer, nicer, and cozier. But if you feel you HAVE to include them, then prepare yourself for drama - and probably ruining another Christmas. 
Are you speaking to anyone yet? Or are you still on non-speaking terms? Who is going to host the goings-on? Do they expect YOU to do it??
As for your son's birthday, it's up to them to bring a gift to him if they're going to. (they should!!) If you had planned on a big party for him, it's up to you to ask them - or not. If your son is having friends over, I doubt he'd want grandma and auntie hanging around. If it's family only, then I guess I'd ask them 
But Christmas - if you're "supposed" to host it, you can beg off -- it's expensive and you can't afford to. If someone else is hosting - you don't HAVE to go. It will cause hurt feelings if you don't, but you're probably not on very good terms right now anyway.
It sounds to me like all of you need family counseling. Can you get your Mom and sister to go with you?? This needs to get straightened out before you lose each other for good. And family is all anyone has. Family is precious - you need each other, if you can figure out how to get along. See if they'll go to counseling. Best of luck and God bless. Hugs, Lee
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