go for it, you will be the one in charge this time and that will give you the courage to tell him exactly how his actions made you feel and how they still affect you. but in my experience family members do not feel the remorse you are looking for so do not go with the expectation that he will show any emotions at all, the best you can expect is that he may listen but that may not even be so. be careful not to revert to the vulnerable little girl you were when in his company, if you do you could come out of this feeling even worse than you do now