I spoke on the phone with mine. -----hmm, I'd say its like for me, it resolved questions but, not the pain. I'd say if you do it, do it with as little "expectation" from him as possible. You can "expect" many things from yourself---I'm not sure exactly what those things are---but, maybe things like the ability to forgive him or not forgive him or the ability to be able to finally express your anger, being able to say what it made you feel like... etc. etc. I guess I'm trying to say this is something you probably will never be fully ready for but, a lot of times we need to do stuff were not entirely ready for (maybe you will be but, this decision, in essence, is going to be difficult, no matter how you go about it) but, if your trying to move forward in life it could be the closure you need...so, I'd do it with no intention of focusing on his needs and more attention on getting what you need out of it, and stating that clearly before conversating with him.....whatever you NEED to do, say, feel..YOU do. And if YOU need to not talk to him again, then that is okay! I'd say take this decision slowly and I'd hope you'd have other friends, family, or a therapist that can help you process all of your feelings after you do it.