Even if the military member isn't totally into the program of recovery? My husband was diagnosed with PTSD last spring, although the triggering incident occurred almost 8 years ago. It's been a long, horrible struggle, as his way of coping is with alcohol. He does go to the VA, where they've given him antiD's(which don't really work when coupled with alcohol, but I digress)He shows up for maybe 1 out of every 4 appts.

Anyway, it's been bad enough, and going on long enough now he's passed some of his symptoms onto me. I trigger when, for instance, he plays his music loudly. He's had arguments with me when playing his music in the past, and now every time he does it I trigger, and it's at the point now that I have to leave the house when he does it, otherwise I have a full blown anxiety attack, or I lash out at him.

he did, after his latest appt, give me a book, which just told me "family members can expect xyz" yeah, great, but what else?