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Originally Posted by MELISSSAD81
hey all, so my sponsor wants me to say hi to 5 people I dont know when i go to meetings. it has to do with the fact that i hate that I can hide so well in meetings. It sounds easy enough but when it comes time to actually do it i freak out. the battle im having is before she said yes to sponsoring me she asked me if i was willing to go to any lengths and i said yes but my lack of action is showing her the complete opposite of willing to go to any lengths. how do i do this without making myself crazy? i have such hard time meeting new people and i feel stupid just thinking bout doing it.
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Don't,? why should you?
Whose lengths are you going to go? to Her Lengths, Her Sponsor's lengths Your lengths, What is the standard. Did Her sponsor make her go up and talk to 5 people too. Or did she just decide to make that number up. Did you ask her, whose idea was this and is it standard for newcomers to have to go up and introduce themselves. I thought it was supposed to be a safe place, yet you are beginning to feel stupid. Hmmm.
When you go into a book store do you just go up and introduce yourself to 5 people, I would say no you don't. What about at a party/ function , probably not either. Why Because it's intimidating.
If these people are so concerned about the newcomer why are they not coming up to you?
Look all I want to say is take it easy. You decide if you want to say hello to others not anyone else.If she doesn't like it tell her that's fine. You can start interviewing a new sponsor when ever you feel like it.
Why are you going to give up your own decision making to someone else you hardly even know? Because she is sober and your not. Not true. You are sober the same day. I hear in the rooms who ever got up earliest has the most sobriety. They can't have it all there own way. Quick question for you. What do you do if She picks up a drink?
AA asks you to keep an open mind. Keep it.It's yours.