I'm sorry you guys have had to experience your T declining your gifts. That was my big fear last year, that she would say she was unable to accept it. Even if I understood intellectually the reasons, emotionally I would have been crushed.

I do understand Ts not accepting gifts that have monetary value, so I knitted her something. That was the first gift I ever gave her, or any T.

This past summer I crocheted her a little Nemo figure to keep in her office. I gave it to her right before she left on vacation. Nemo is still sitting on top of her bookshelf and I stare at him and see the little mistakes I made that I'm sure no one else notices, lol!

Then I got her a cup of coffee from Starbucks this fall, on our 2 year T anniversary. I agonized over that one, too.

For me, giving T a gift is fraught with peril. I would be devastated if she said she couldn't accept it.