thanks, I did find out about the Vet Center, but I think the one in town here moved or closed down, because it wasn't where the website said it was. he's not interested in family therapy at all, and told the initial intake counselor not to call me. it has been horrific enough that at this point, I'm ready to throw in the towel. Especially since he doesn't really seem interested in getting better. I actually did the sanity quiz here, and wow..yeah, it has affected me more than I thought.