Ask your Doctor if she will put you on Remeron. Just a suggesstion Bama. My Pdoc is very conservative. She refused to put me on ambien. She said..she wouldn't prescribe that...but would perscribe Remeron. Take it right before ya go to bed. You'll be out ....."like the lights" in about 10-15 minutes. My experience with side effects was nil. However everyone's different,as you know.
Just google Remeron...you'll find out all about it. I used the Remeron Sol tabs. Disolves on your tongue quickly. Orange flavour!
TGC