((((((((WePow)))))))))))

It's okay to need T, even when he needs rest. You can't change what you need.

Last weekend, my T had big stuff going on in his life, and he needed to do that, and to rest, and I needed him. I did e-mail him and he didn't e-mail back. We talked about it on Monday...he ALWAYS replies when I ask him to, so it felt yucky. T said "this is one of those times when the relationship just isn't fair - not to me (T), but to you". And I was like "STOP TALKING! You're going to say something that upsets me" and he did stop, but I know we both got it. And he said it's and/both, and it is. I DID need him, and it was okay to need him, and to even ask for something. AND he had this stuff going on, and it had to take priority, and he couldn't give me what I needed. I wasn't bad for needing, and he wasn't bad for not being able to give it right then. Did it suck? Yes. But there doesn't have to be shame, self-blame, etc. around it.

Reaching out here is good. When I need T and I can't have him, I'm so grateful for PC. I hope you can feel a little bit heard and cared for here, even though it's not exactly the same.

Hugs and hugs, wepow