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Originally Posted by madisgram
no from me too. abusers don't change their spots. plus look at his history with you. why would it be any better now? i can't see that happening. you can consider being a good friend instead if you wish. they can be very persuavise but you would soon see the red flags. remarrying him makes you his hostage again, imho.
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Wow! Your response, especially the Ayn Rand quote, gave me so much to think about. Your questions are certainly thought-provoking. I really don't have any way of knowing for sure if anything would be better now. Also, as you say, "they can be very persuasive";that really describes him well--if anyone knows the art of persuasion, he does. It is now my job to see how much substance there is to what he promises me. Even though I want to be with him again and perhaps get remarried, I am not rushing into it. I will give myself enough time to think this through very carefully. Will the benefits outweigh the risks? I trust God will provide me with the right answer as long as I'm patient. The worst scenario I can think of, however, is that somehow he's still holding me emotionally hostage because I feel I'm so vulnerable to his views on things. Sorry for rambling.