Thanks Troy. I think if it was just the PTSD symptoms, I could make it all work. But the alcohol added in makes him mean and cruel. And I don't know which symptoms go where either, he came home from that deployment drinking, so the two problems have always co-existed. I have to be careful about going to Al-anon too, I can't go if he knows that's where i'm going, he gets angry if he thinks I'm talking about him to someone.