hi, haywood,

I, too, am an isolationist. I don't know what the cure is. People don't seem to like me much. I have a hard time smiling, am awkward in social situations and am far from being good looking.

But, Christmas shopping I can do! I've done some of it online and have avoided crowds and used the time I would have spent travelling to make decisions which I am also slow to do. And, I simplify things. This year, most people (the "general family adults + neighbors" - not the kids) are getting scented candles. I love 'em and they make nice gifts. (I only buy them on sale, too.)

Oh, and when Christmas shopping, don't forget to buy a little something for yourself that you really want - something meaningful that no one else knows about, however small. Treating yourself will counter the feelings that you are not important and have not accomplished anything. You will have succeeded in making yourself happy, even for a fleeting moment. And, you are taking care of your emotional needs. Every little bit of satisfaction helps.