hello everyone,The feelings of sadness is because of being left all alone in a world we do not understand,manipulation and to mimic others is easy we are chamelons and can change within seconds,to please or displease others.I think this comes from having a father who wanted us to be the GREATEST and a most who was passive and co dependant and never wanted us to leave so we was rewarded when we messed up with one parent and loved when we did great but,not as great as the parents as they are apparently better than us.We are extensions of their depression its all passed down onto us.Then we can talk of blame and why are we this way? well their parents did the same to them i guess and their parents them.The cycle needs to be broken and this happens with life challenging problems where we cannot lie and manipulate anymore.We have to learn empathy and to be real and genuine.I do not believe that all narcs are bad there are different degrees of every disorder or illness.Unlike others narcs do have guilt and feelings.Its an emotional problem also which means they have emotions!!