Sometimes, too, it's just a matter of having different relationships to fulfill different needs instead of trying to find just friends who fulfill all needs all the time. My hubs is the person I share dreams and plans with, and have political debates with. My sister and daughter (my two best girlfriends) are the ones I share girl talk and silliness with. And all three and me together have fascinating intellectual and philosophical conversations with. I have casual friends that I can have a laugh with, but wouldn't have deep conversations with...anyway, I hope you find the relationships that work for you.