Sorry this is such a rough time for you. It's never easy having to make such painful decisions. bpd2 is right in that you need to focus on protecting your children and yourself - physically, mentally and emotionally. Do the practical things (changing the locks, installing an alarm system), and whatever legal options you have (even if you can't get a restraining order, you might be able to limit his visitation to supervised only). Family therapy and education about his disease so that you can move forward in a positive direction for the well-being of your children. Sending positive vibes your way...