To start with, it was good to tell your friend that it wasn't her fault.....she needs to know that if she doesn't know it already but it's good to reinforce that knowledge no matter what. Hopefully, your friend that had the argument with her is knowledgeable about what the other friend is struggling with & knows that is the cause of her action & not the argument. Arguments like that are usually a side effect of other things that are bothering a person & aren't the problem itself as you are quite aware of as you wrote in your post.

Now, as far as helping your friend who OD'ed, that's a tough one. I was where she was after loosing my career & having a bad marriage which I used my career to escape from. I was in ICU & on a ventilator for just over 24 hours......but even after that, it would't have mattered what anyone said. There wasn't any amount of emotional help from anyone that would have helped, it was something that I had to figure out myself & sort through & deal with in my own mind. The only thing that is important to remind a person in that state is that the horrible feeling she's feeling will pass as she accepts her husband's leaving & takes positive action against his abuse......direct her actions against her husband & not against herself. I know when I finally left my husband it was the best thing I ever did in the 33 years I tried to stick it out. I never would have guessed as I was laying in ICU that my life could ever be as wonderful as it has turned out to be. I still have problems, but life 13+ years later has been the most wonderful life I could have ever imagined. We can't see into the future to know what it holds, but it's usually so much better than the horrible time we go through that causes us to feel low enough to want to end our life.

Those are really the only things that you can remind a person who is feeling like that because the bottom line is that until I got through those really bad years & was able to come to terms with life in my own mind, nothing anyone said really made much difference at all, not even therapy......but I was really a mess for over 5 years at that time.....& looking back, I thank God daily that He got me through that time alive.