Hi michellemj; so sorry you are going through this. I have been on both sides of this fence. My mom was diagnosed with BP when I was a child and I was diagnosed at 31. I think you've taken some very good steps by talking to his therapist. Is there someone in his life that he would be open to listen to? Perhaps he or she could voice their concerns to him. It sounds like he isn't taking his medication and/or not taking them as prescribed.

His actions concern me. Is there a family member or friends you can stay with? I hope your husband seeks out appropriate help and begins managing the illness. Until he does setting boundaries with him is important. I would also suggest therapy for yourself and the children.