excerpts from <A target="_blank" HREF=http://www.ncptsd.org/facts/general/fs_effects.html>Effects of Trauma</A>

"People who have experienced traumas may have problems in relationships with others because they often have a hard time feeling close to people or trusting people .... Trauma survivors may feel detached or disconnected from others because they have difficulty feeling or expressing positive feelings.

how has trauma affected your relationships?

i can't stand my husband getting close to me because i feel trapped, like i did when i was raped. i was recently married AND i can't stand the man close to me! i'm trying to work through this problem but i'm scared, tense, numb, frozen...scared to feel.

<font color=purple> Man can will nothing unless he has first understood that he must count no one but himself; that he is alone, abandoned on earth in the midst of his infinite responsibilities, without help, with no other aim than the one he sets himself, with no other destiny than the one he forges for himself on this earth. Jean-Paul Sartre </font color=purple>