"What if." the two saddest words in the English language.

Our craving for recognition, respect, and love....... mixed with rampaging hormones....... boundaries get blurred by head fuzz if we spend too much time in fantasy land. Big trouble lurks around every corner.

Our culture pounds us with images of one-to-one relationships as being the answer to everything that doesn't feel right in our lives. The empty longing to bond is so easily manipulated by advertising and tv til we think we'll just die if we don't get fullfilled "that way" too.

I've discovered that trillions of people are lonely 'cause they're waiting for, or focussed on, that ONE person who will fill this huge empty spot in our hearts. So, I decided to try out "Love the one you're with" like the song says, and train myself to give good vibes: recognition, respect, and love, to everybody I come upon in my daily life. Belive it or not, giving is filling!!! It's not longed for one-on-one cuddle time, but it fills my heart and makes that one-to-one ache small enough so it doesn't run my life. When I was your age, I got involved with sports and little kids who needed safe hugs. Filled me up, way good. Does your school have peer couselors? Do you do art or music or sports or drama or or or? Have fun finding out who you are, what feeds your soul. Helen Keller said, "Life is a great adventure, or nothing." This is your time to bloom yourself! Go girl, go!