i'm with LMo totally on this one. go see the psychologist and work on yourself. you can't make him change his feelings. he has to see that you are serious about changing and will take his time, i'm sure, before he committs to a lifetime with you. best of luck. one thing that will help is to post here and work through some of your feelings. people will be supportive..this is a very good community of caring and loving people. xoxoxo pat