I don't think that it is up to your office to decide whether you have a qualifying disability or not. As far as I know mental illness alone can qualify as a disability... not only that, but all of the agencies helping me in NJ (i.e. the Department of Vocational Rehabilitation and the Community Law Project) were clear to indicate that they understand the nature of depression and understand the implications and how their help applies.

I have a handicapped status because of my arthritis as well. Although I've never used it it is good to know I have it with me if I am ever in need.

If you can talk to the ADA that would be great, they are the one's who can tell you what is possible with the nature of your disability(ies). If they or a doctor or the state say you have a disability I don't see how a company could say "well, not as far as WE are concerned" without being in a HEAP of trouble... potential litigation.

I understand about the hospital thing. You do want to have your back checked. I'd hate for you to make it worse than it is just to get out of work, on the other hand maybe it really is bad enough to justify some more time off and you've just been putting it off due to other issues? I guess, theoretically, what you want is to go the the hospital to have your back looked at but not go to the hospital in order to hide from your job. That would have to be your call.

I hope the lead on another job works out. This could be great if it happens. If the job is less stressful that would be great. Best case, believe it or not, some bosses, workplaces, actually do care about their employees and a new place may be more supportive of your needs.

Here's hoping. Keep us posted.

In the meantime, it is Ok, even good, to let your feelings out on this, so keep posting here and do what you need to do.