sugahorse, that sounds like a fantastic session! It sounds like you and your T will use your emails to her in a really productive way that will really help your therapy move along. It is great she is open to using email as a tool that way.

You said your T addressed all the points in your email. How about #4, about wanting an emotional connection in therapy? Did she talk more about that? I remember before you had said she didn't want an emotional connection and I didn't understand that. Then in your session it seemed like she cared very much for you by keeping you on as a client while she scaled back her practice. I find that confusing--she cares a lot yet she will not emotionally connect? Your session sounded so good--maybe there was some connection there?

I am also a slow processor. I need those days after therapy to figure out what happened in therapy. I think my processing has speeded up somewhat since I first began therapy. Part of it was learning how to be more accessible to myself. I was so good at walling things off as they transpired, that I wouldn't know if I felt hurt or mad or joyful or whatever in session, because I just took it deep inside and shut the door on it--all in an automatic and unconscious process. Sometimes it would be days after therapy or weeks or months until I realized I felt a certain way about something from therapy. Journaling extensively between sessions really helped me process.