When I was an active alcoholic I worked full time, that way I could keep up the pretense I was in control and also more deserving of a drink, once I got into treatment I decided p/t was enought, and I dont want to work full time, I do need that extra me time. I'm not sure why other peoples thoughts piss you off, all you have to do is correct them and thats that, no biggy, perhaps they think if they were struggling they wouldn't cope well with full time, I doubt its anything milacious in theri thinking, do you feel "attacked" by it? perhaps that is sign of stress?