Hello sundog. Thanks for your response. It makes me feel far less alone and maybe less lonely. I have analyzed the situation in the same way as you and I agree it is not easy to reverse the problem. I'm delighted that my post has triggered such an intelligent discussion. I thought nobody would reply !!

I think I have reached the point where I can get no more isolated. I could maybe stay in bed all day !! I might do that if my bedroom wasn't so cold. I keep thinking of the baby steps. I know some things I need to do. So far it is just thinking. I have become an expert at cancelling things. This week, I have cancelled social engagements at my support group and my weight loss group. I didn't really feel up to either. The shame is that I don't get many opportunities to socialize. I never did find socialization easy.

Maybe we can encourage each other? I am not sure whether I have said, but I lived in California from 1984 until 2000. I might be there now except for the bipolar wearing me down. My marriage also contributed.

Take care ! {{{hugs}}}