hi elliemay,

i was trying to think of how talking to your therapist on the phone could be better for you, as it seems that's probably going to be the best way for you to get some relief. i've had phone issues with my therapist as well (as in, we suck at talking on the phone to each other), and one thing that i've found has helped is to stop and go back if i say something that she misunderstands, etc. i think there is this tendency with the phone to just keep going, but if you can slow it down and even stop and go back - i think it's helpful.

also, i don't know about you, but i find it hard to remember what exactly i want to say, when talking on the phone. i've not done this before, but maybe making a bulleted list of things you want to discuss might help. that way you won't get distracted or feel like there's something you're missing/forgetting.

and above all else, remember to breathe!