I use to feel my T had had a privledged life because of her knowledge and education and life style, use to get angry inside that she hadn't had a life like me, but since then from things I've learnt about her, that doesn't mean much at all, its about our inner life, perhaps your T's parents were preoccupied with their careers? we can never just know for sure whats going on for another person and perhaps thinking we can't be understood is a defence against connection?