Dear kalisha....I've been thinking for days about whether to write that post, for just that reason: that confronting the stigma is almost too hard--too hard, sometimes. But one of the things Linehan says (or maybe somebody else?) is that It's not our fault that we have this condition; but it is our responsibility to deal with it.....
I totally agree with this right here!


I don't know how to do that some days, but if it's not my responsibility to work on the way I want my life to be, then whose is it?.....
Knowledge is power. How we respond and how we react to whom we are and how we deal with it is allot to how others can choose to deal with others whom they meet with BPD. Then there are those that will always choose to want to follow there ignorance can't change everyone.

Too often, we sink in our sorrow, because that well is deep. But there are things we can do for ourselves and for each other. We are in control of many aspects of our lives, can make the choices and not be stuck with those others make for us. This is what therapy does for me now--although for probably two full years, it was simply to learn to trust and to calm down.

Of course we'll slip sometimes; everybody does. We can't let our slips define us, though. And because they will occur, we have to find ways to even the balance..........It's like me and my kids: I've been scary sometimes, and we'll all remember these times forever. But, I am also the best buddy they have: we do creative things, we are very funny together, I sit down and watch their movies with them...not just plunk them there and go read a book, I buy surprises for them--sometimes toys, but sometimes things that help them with their own insecurities.
This is were I do appreciate my life. I agree that I think we do pay more then the usual attention. I think were more in-tune. I too take that time to be on key with my kids. My girls write there own music perform and sing when able before people. They are 9,12...My son is self taught in drums, bass,guitar and he writes music too...His passion is drums and his loves flying on his skateboard and making videos...he's 16....Thing is they want me involved and constantly want me to see them succeed and perform...It's awesome to watch them blossom, even though they have seen like you said some scary times, and been without me at times.

One thing about borderlines is that we sure do pay attention! (Sometimes we have a lit-tle trouble doing what someone else needs...but....)

I do have to limit how many hours an experience lasts--it's like being on PC: I can
handle a certain number of hours or contacts, but then I had better take a break, or I'll get weird...