If my ex is to be spoken about its really easy, if anything he feels hard done by because his children do not see him very much.

The fact he pays NO maintanence and hasn't since I left him with five children is not a problem for him in the least. He is quite pleased he can do as he pleases with his money.

He sends a token £20 per child at Christmas and sometimes remembers the odd birthday...

If he or other men or women feel that the children do not notice let me assure them they do. I NEVER run him down (apart from on here as I feel I can do so freely) I don't have to children may be young but they are not stupid.

As my nine year old daughter says ... IF he remembers, we get money for birthdays but he forgot mine last year.

She is one of the lucky ones in that she has a new dad who adores her and her brothers but some are not so lucky and only have the one dad which is so so sad.