seventyeight: I forgot to thank you for your insight about the "hug." It was very good. Reminds me of when my former T said she couldn't hang up a poem I wrote about therapy because she said it wouldn't be right to do it for one client and she had to be careful what she hung on her wall. Huge contrast to my T now, but that's not the point. I told her "I know that if you could have hung it up you would have, and that's good enough for me" Wow, she thought that was huge progress on my part.