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Old Dec 15, 2003, 11:48 AM
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lonelyone thank you for posting and I want to second yellowrose's comment that it might be depression in the clinical sense.

Recognizing that there is a problem and seeking solutions is the first and maybe largest step toward feeling better.

If it is clinical depression there are lots of resources available for treatment, including medication, therapy, and support (through places like this one). The next step could be to see a doctor or therapist and let them determine if you may have clinical depression requiring medical treatment. There are lots of tell-tale signs of clinical depression but only a professional can determine if that is at the root of the problem.

Even if it turns out not to be clinical depression it is clear that there are issues in your life that are causing you to be depressed. If meds aren't necessary to treat an underlying illness you can still benefit from therapy to help you deal with these things. You can learn skills to help you cope with the feelings you have and how to slowly improve your outlook on things. This is a necessary process whether or not you have an underlying illness causing your depression.

I think it is very positive that you recognize these feelings and understand that there may be help toward feeling better. For example you say you are worried about when the children move away. It could be so beneficial that you are seeking help now with this so that maybe when that time comes you will be able to feel more positive and have a better outlook toward your own future, rather than waiting until these feelings truly overwhelm you.

There is help available. Realizing that there are resources to help, as you have by coming here, is a huge step toward feeling better.

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For myself I have been feeling rather similar this holiday season. I have no family left, only my dad whom I have a very bad relationship with and must avoid dealing with for my own health. I used to enjoy the holidays immensly with my friends, but due to illness the past two years I have been unable to get out and it seems no one is willing to make the effort to visit me. I feel really alone and lonely and dealing with the season so far has been really difficult. I am just trying to get through until it ends but I already feel somewhat angry and bitter that I will have missed a whole season that I used to enjoy so much.

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