i was a question asker when i first started on support forums. i did it a lot with T, too (e.g., he'd asked "what do you mean by self harm?" and i'd want to know what the various options were that he would expect). it was about building safety and security for me, i probably would have freaked if people turned the limelight back onto me. i dont know if that's the case for you, poet, but i'm just giving an example of how people ask questions (and still feel supported) without disclosing their specific reasons for asking those particular questions.

as for your actual question... i've skipped a number of sessions when pdoc & i have had a rupture. the first time it happened i don't think he'd even realised i was upset with him - he sent me a text 8 weeks later just to check i was going ok, and said he felt bad for even making contact because it felt paternalistic. now he knows me better (5 years on), so he's pretty good at checking in on me. he might not do anything if i skip one session, but he will usually send me a text/call before the next one to check everything is going ok.

i've never actually walked out on him, but there have been few times i've been waiting in his reception area for a long time & finally got fed up and left, and usually those times he's called me immediately also.

he's never charged for cancellations, or berated me, or made me feel bad. he self discloses a lot about his thoughts on me/our relationship, and invites me to talk about what was going on through my head when i bolted/refused to return. he isnt forceful about anything and sometimes i cant really talk about it. e.g., i didnt wait for his appointment in january this year, but i didnt want to talk about it when i saw him next either and he was ok with that. i finally told him about it last week and he made me feel good about letting him know.