Mom, I really don't want to talk about finances right now, let's talk about something else.

My mom is a malignant narcissist and have low contact with her on my own terms. I think you wanted to stretch the truth to protect yourself. There are people out there sending 50 -100 applications/resumes a month and still zilch...that's where the term "jobless recovery" comes in.

If you mom would get depressed if you didn't come, maybe that will give her something to reflect on. Is she controlling with her emotions? The guilt, her depressed mood if you didn't come.

You are entitled to spend your time the way you want, you just have to let go.

Been there, done that, sending your cyber hugs.