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Old Dec 17, 2010, 04:27 AM
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Also it made me think how many hours the average T must spend, in school and/or at home, learning and developing compassionate, supportive expressions and encouraging smiles, only to find their clients forever dodging their eyes and staring at the pattern in the rug.
lol this made me laugh i've never thought of it quite like this before. thank you for adding a little lightness to something i find really hard
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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Thanks for this!
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