I forgot to mention, I do have parts who do not like and/or resent my son as he takes up most our time and limits who can come out and who can be co-concious. It makes for a challenge at times.
I thought I would have a hard time when my son reached the age when the abuse started for me but I did not. So I guess some people do and others don't.
My son has Autism, ADHD, Apraxia and Traumatic brain injury so he needs constant supervision and child care is nearly impossible. Last time I left him with anyone was to go to NY for the weekend as my grandmother is having health issues. within 48 hours they dropped him off at a childrens shelter with no information. The mom part (me) was completely overwhelmed and a useless wreck. Thank god I have a part that handles any kind of negotiations! That part does not like my son but understood that the kid had to come back. So... parts can help in parenting too. No one understands how I can raise this child alone... But I am not alone, I have us. It gets hard on the body but we rotate out and some parts sleep while others watch him so that no one gets overwhelmed.

Try and think of ways in which your parts can help you be a better parent. The more involved they are in a useful way the better everyone feels about it.

And just an FYI, always be co-conscious when your littles are out playing with your kids. I came back up front one day to find my son and a little coloring together on the wall of his bedroom!