Glad to hear that you're planning to take care of yourself, Broken. You sound better than you did the other day. I felt really bad for you. About 6 years ago, my ex-husband pulled the rug out from under me and informed me that he was filing for divorce. No warning - we had never really fought much. I hadn't seen it coming. I know how powerless and vulerable it feels.

I do want to say something, and I hope it isn't just me being jaded. I don't believe that two adults can develop 'unconditional love' for each other. A parent and child, yes, but 2 adults? There are always conditions -- maybe they are extreme and unlikely to come up, but conditions always exist and the chance of TWO people not having any conditions, finding each other, is even slimmer.

I just wanted to put that out there to set expectations. Be careful expecting unconditional love. It's not a fair expectation to put on the other person.

Take care of yourself and ask for support when you need it -- we're here for you,
LMo