I could not work with a female T at this point in my life, but that is due to my own issues I am working on - with my male T. He told me that when he started his therapy, he couldn't work with a female T due to his issues. But then he found the right one and she was able to help him heal.

If you can't get a male T, you may just need a different female T. It may not have anytyhing to do with the gender (or it may). Different people make different Ts. It has to be a solid fit in order for it to work most of the time. If that is not a choice, you will need to be VERY upfront with her (in a respectful way) and say what you said in the first post. "I would like to focus on XYZ in MY session time. It appears to me that you are trying to focus on CD and E instead. This is not working for me. How can we get on the same page?"