Is this my alter-ego talking? Everything you described is everything I feel about sex. In fact, this issue is what brought me to these forums over a year ago. I still haven't found any answers, only other people who understand. I've quit trying to understand why, or change it. I guess I've just accepted that this how I feel about sex and hope that someday, the right person will change that. I just wanted to post and say that I understand completely, and to thank you for posting so honestly, because you described me exact issue to a t. If you ever find a "cure", let me know. =)