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Your niece IS better off without him. I just don't understand how we as a society just accept this type of behavior. In my grandparents time this type of a character flaw would even carry over to your employment.
I would be crushed if one of my kids decided to have kids with someone like that. What makes you think that the kids YOU have with him/her will be different? My cousin's first wife was like that. In his defense he was the first to have kids with her so he really didn't know her character (but then again, why the hell are you having kids with someone when you don't know their character), but two other men created families with her after she just left the two kids she had with him behind.
Even with all of my preaching, my foster daughter had a baby with a loser like this. He has two older children that he never sees, and guess what, he's only seen my granddaughter once; right after she was born when my daughter brought him to see him. She IS better off without him. But why is it ok that he gets to just keep having kids and not support them either financially or emotionally?
I'm actually kind of surprised that the government isn't stepping in here. I know the decision to be a parent is the most private important decision you can make but in John's case, the government is supporting his three kids by three different women.
When he does work, by the time child support catches up to him he either quits or gets fired. Rumor has it that he has another girl pregnant.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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