That, my friend, is the sixty four thousand dollar question, isn't it now? (that is, the "I don't know how to ask him if he is or not, and i don't wanna lose his friendship if he isn't" thing, not the "i forgot my password" part, that is a "dime a dozen" question).

At some point you will have to make a difficult decision. Huge stakes because I understand not wanting to lose a friend. It is possible but not certain that even if he isn't gay, he may not have a problem still being your friend.

On the other hand, if you never take that risk, you'll never get anywhere. Like the saying goes: Don't die wondering

Use your best judgement. Wish there were some easy and reliable way to tell. Like on that old Murphy Brown episode, find out if he reads Architechural Digest, or tell him he has something on the bottom of his shoes.

I hope things work out well for you. You are very young so if this doesn't work out don't fret. In addition to trying to figure out how he will react, also make sure that you are ready. In case things go bad, make sure you have the emotional support to make sure it doesn't hurt so much that you won't want to try again in the future.

-- The world is what we make of it --
-- Dave
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