I think many people believe that others will only want to date someone who displays perfection. But look at the great diversity of people and human experience in the world... if it were true that people only chose to enter a relationship with those who were perfect, the human race would surely be on the path towards extinction.

Everyone has issues and past baggage. EVERYONE. Some of our baggage is obvious, and some is not. Those whom you may like to enter a relationship with will also have baggage and issues and flaws of their own. Some of those issues will be obvious from the start, and others will only be revealed over time.

It is true that there are some men who would choose not to date someone who has SIed in the past. Some men would also choose not to date someone who earns more money than them, or has blonde hair, or drinks, or doesn't drink, or someone who is emotionally demonstrative, or emotionally cold, or, or, or...

The point is, in terms of finding a partner, your scars will matter to some people, and to others they won't. You are not 'damaged goods' - you merely come with a history that is as varied and rich and complex and unique as any member of the human race.