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Dec 18, 2010, 06:33 PM
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Member Since: Jun 2010
Location: sumter sc
Posts: 1,121
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Originally Posted by QUEEN OF WANDS
today is my eldest childs birthday..he 21..he is having a fabulous time and went on a trip for his b-day,,he is a good student and studying very hard,,i am feeling guily about not being the best mom,,i had him when i was 16 and eventually married his father and had 2 more children..i was a good mom but emotionally i was always distraught in my relationship with his father..so he seen me cry alot or end up arguing,,when my husband and i split it was very hard on our children,,no matter what i did or didnt do his father talked bad things about me,,i dont believe it is right to try and make the mother of your children look bad to her children,well since then(5 years) the relationship with my son has been strained,,he does not look at me like he use to..i think he thinks i was a terrible mother..prob an emotional basketcase at points,,but i have never done anything to harm them consiously..at 21 he has not dated yet and his father and new girlfriend would tease him about this..i told him that he is concentrating on his schooling and making a future and that in time he will find a person he feels comfortable with..is it normal to not date yet? even if its not i would never pressure him or make him feel stupid..i wish his father would care enough to realize what he is doing...do you think my mothering would affect him so that he would not date? i wish we were close like we use to be but i do not pressure him
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you are right I are dont care if we break up you dont need to poison your kids mind about me.Thats what my brother Is going through right now with his soon to be ex wife of seventeen years .Ok I not taking sides he got married when he was just seventeen and she was twenty three years of age and my brother was so crazy In love with her that he left us and got married which was the worst thing he could of did because she turn him against us and she was treating him like a child what ever she would want he jump and did it he now 34 .He should of have a backbone and not just jump and did what ever she say .he stop talking too us and he was hating us for no reason it was like she had a spell on him.He was working too jobs until he graduated from high school .He became a police officer and they started having kids .His older child Is seventeen years old and his second one 14 and his last child Is 11 .So anyways when they started having problems she would tell his kids that she dont like her husband and dont like us .She even turn the kids hating my mom for no reason she not right for this .Because if she have an issue with us then she should of talk to us instead of telling her kids lies on us .She act like she a victim she the one at cheated on my brother and she really crazy she want to mess up my brother life by calling the cops and saying he choke him that was not true because we was over there visting them at that time .This very stressful cause we love the kids and they tolds us straight to our faces that they hate us .
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